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Gottwald’s Take on Gottman: Antidotes to the Four Horsemen, Pt. 2
Gottwald’s Take on Gottman: Antidotes to the Four Horsemen, Pt. 2

I am still talking about marriage and relationships, and how to make them better. I’ll be referring to Dr. John Gottman’s Four Horsemen and how they negatively affect relationships, particularly the marital one. This blog will discuss how to avoid engaging in those negative behaviors and the antidotes to the Four Horsemen.

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Gottwald’s Take on Gottman. Pt. 1: The Four Horsemen
Gottwald’s Take on Gottman. Pt. 1: The Four Horsemen

These Four Horsemen are markers of relationship failure with 93% accuracy in predicting divorce. They can be counteracted by their antidotes, which are listed in parentheses: Criticism (gentle start-up), Contempt (build a culture of appreciation), Defensiveness (take responsibility), Stonewalling (physiological self-soothing).

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